Let Good Deed Doing Bring You Joy Squared
Want to raise your level of joy, Zen and all around feelgoodness? Do a little something-something nice for someone. If experience is telling, not only will the person feel better, but so will you. Woo hoo! Extra benefit. Ready to change your corner of the world with a simple two-step process? Great – Let the good deeds commence!
Step One: Choose someone.
There are plenty of test subjects out there. Perhaps someone you know casually has seemed a little down lately or maybe a complete stranger has touched your heart. You can find people at your job, in your neighborhood, down the road and all across the globe. People in need of smiles are everywhere.
Step Two: Do something nice.
It doesn’t have to take a lot of money, if any at all. Perhaps you can write a note of encouragement, a bit about what you appreciate about the person or an appropriate joke on a sticky note for a melancholy co-worker. Of course, if you want to indulge in a dogoodery outside of those four walls, hit the local 7-11 to buy a hotdog and bottled water for a homeless person: investment $2; payoff, spreading smiles and providing hope.
Whatever you choose to do, make it fun. Revel it in. Go ahead...embrace that inner soul smile. What's your favorite way to evoke a smile or sooth a troubled soul? Is it hugging the "free hug" guy, providing dog food to the homeless man on the corner for his constant companion or paying for the woman's coffee in line behind you? Want to make my day? Simply share your spreading joy tip in the comment section below for all of us looking for inspiration.
A case study:
I was in a thrift store on the coast recently and spotted a woman trying on rings from the glass counter. After the shop keep put the ring back in the case, the woman continued to stare at the golden bauble. While I wandered around look at books and vintage t-shirts, I kept my eye on her. It was obvious she wanted that ring. I didn’t know her, her situation or even which ring had caught her fancy, but I did recognize that yearning.
Even after leaving the shop, I couldn’t get her obvious longing out of my head. I parked once more and ran in. I asked the woman at the counter about the ring. I told her I’d like to buy it if it was $100 or under. The hundred would have been a stretch for me, and probably nothing I would have spent on myself, but my heart was calling to just take a leap if that’s what was needed. That ring, that object of her desire, was less than $10. I purchased it and asked the employee to please give it to the woman. Although she thought it was unbelievably kind and asked me why I chose to do this, she told me it was against policy for her to walk the ring over. With a crazily beating heart and a raspy throat, I approached the woman. And what a story she had. Once a politician in a country where women aren’t as respected as they are here, she showed me gunshot wounds and shared touching, personal stories of strength. This sharing of experience and emotion touched me in the deepest of ways. I left the store almost breathless and with a smile that engulfed my entire being. That ring didn’t feed her body, but it certainly fed her soul. With tears in our both our eyes and countless hugs, we said our goodbyes.
If you decide to make someone’s day, make it fun. Enjoy yourself. Channel your goodness in a way that not only feels authentic, but also makes your heart smile or your laughter bubble over. Yes, it takes courage. But don’t you worry. You got this.